What does it mean to give up on dreams?

Hey

Since I have very intelligent friends, I decided to write a continuation of my previous post already today (I'm so not supposed to do this at the moment, but it's a nice way to procrastinate).
Another intelligent friend of mine yesterday surprised me with a message, what is the  dream and why do you dream? What does it mean to give up a dream?
Also thank you for correcting me, because it's absolutely true, a hopeless romantic is an oxymoron af! A romantic is indeed hopeful.

And because of this message I decided to focus on the simplest and yet the most complex concept of them all, let's dig into love! Let's say that my dream is a dream of sharing the future with someone and I dream of this because, well, let's be real, it's kinda nice. (Cats. So. Many. Cats) The closeness, the metaphorical idea of letting someone completely strange into your own cave, into your own mind, into your own space and thoughts. The fearless, blind, and kind of childish trust. You know what I'm talking about don't ya. We're all humans, we're all pretty full of shit and we pretty much all contradict ourselves 24/7. And don't get me wrong, perhaps you're an exception but I believe we all secretly dream of someone who'll understand and want us the way we are, who'll help us grow and see us flawed, but accept us regardless of this.
Why do I dream. This is again a very very good question. I dream because I dare to dream, because it's somehow ballsy and comforting, no? I dream because I can!

I really do have intelligent friends because these questions are not easy what so ever. So I'm going back to my unintentional oxymoron 'hopeless romantic'. I didn't realize how genius this was, but the more I think about this the better it gets, as I believe it has the answer to the other question. What does it mean to give up a dream? In this particular context I believe (again, write me and fight me) it is when you loose hope for the other one to give your life anything positive. It's when being with this person makes you feel worse and more lonely than when you're alone. It's when you've been hurting for a while. It's when you don't really want this person to touch you anymore, in both literal and a metaphorical sense. When you're too tired to have a conversation, or a cup of tea, or when you no longer care about how they're doing, because it has nothing to enrich your life. When you can't count on this person to be there for you, and when you genuinely don't want to be there for them.

And damn this is getting depressing, but since I'm digging into love (which btw, I'm a rookie, don't judge this post too harshly).. This entire post can be also applied on one's vision of themselves. What do I mean? Don't loose hope with yourself. Don't give up on yourself, and do what makes you happy. Buy that ticket, learn that language! Be patient with yourself, and make time for youself to have that
conversation, to have that cup of tea. ♥

Have a good day,

Veronika

P.S.: Another smart friend of mine once gave me this book. https://www.alaindebotton.com/the-course-of-love/

It's by Alain DeBotton and it's about love, and it's probably the best piece of literature on the topic I've read.

When is it okay to give up on your dreams?

Hey

I miss writing, I'll be honest with you. So I decided I will make this little platform alive again.
Plus the timing is just perfect, because I have many exams to write but instead I'm here.

I came across an interesting video on Youtube the other night (when I was supposed to write an exam again, but oh well).  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4CuJcetUxT4&feature=share
A short video about self love and self worth, and how negative self talk affects you (me, you get the idea). But that's not quite what I want to write about, or what has driven me back to officially writing at the first place and . That would be a long, night conversation which I had with my best friend about taking risks 
and being harsh to achieve something.

And honestly, I want to hear your opinions. I've always been a passionate risk-taker, I mean look at me, living in a different country since the age of 18, it doesn't get better than that does it? I am a person who would never say no to any sort of adventure, to any sort of challenge mostly just for the sake of it. Your comfort zone is a great place to stay in, it truly is. As Mr. Bukowski put it: You can't beat death, but you can beat death in life. If you're going to try, go all the way, otherwise don't even try. There is no other feeling like that. You will be alone with the gods, and the nights will flame with fire. You will ride life straight to perfect laughter. It’s the only good fight there is.

And I must say 21 years old me very much agrees with all of this, as the hopeless idealist and romantic didn't have the chance to die yet, and I'm very familiar with the concept of trying all the way, but my question is when is it worth it? As if, where is the line of something being not worth your efforts? When is it okay to give up on your dreams?
When is it okay (I love this expression) to just run away and never come back?

Now, I'm not smart but my friend actually told me something extremely interesting. You don't give up. You fall and fail, you keep on getting dissapointed and you keep crying over it, but you keep fighting for what you really want. And the reward she said is your own growth and change and maturity. 
In the moment I would literally do anything, anything to present a contraargument. If your dream takes too much effort maybe it isn't for you at the first place. Maybe it's better to just find something else to focus on. A different goal, a different job, a different person to put your energy.
Because you can only take as much, because your self worth can only take as much.

I'm being very philosophical and perhaps annoying you, so I'll go straight to what I think is my point with this post. I want this blog to turn into a journal that I want to share with you. It's been a while I did something out of my comfort zone and opening up publicly is definitely it. 
In the course of the past month I learned a very interesting lesson and perhaps an answer to the problem my friend and I talked about. When is it okay to give up on your dreams? The answer would be when your dreams stop you from growing as a person. 
When you chase an idea, that does you harm.
When you chase a toxic person, who makes you doubt your own worth. 

Have a good day and please, tell me what you think!
We can have a little discussion ;)

P.S. Pics are a liiitle bit off, but it's finally spring and it's so pretty here!!